“Oh! Oh! It’s 7 pm. I need to go now,” he would excitedly say, abruptly
cutting our phone conversation short.
“Wait, I didn’t finish. I have to tell you something.”
“OK, tell me quick. It’s time for Jeopardy!”
So that’s how the conversations would end. If you needed to
call my father, you’d have to call before or after he finished Jeopardy! If you
called after, you would get a delightful recap of the show.
“Did you see the final Jeopardy question? Oh, you didn’t? I
thought you would know it because it was about American Literature.” As an
immigrant from India who came to the US 50 years ago, he was comfortable with
majority of the British writers and Hollywood movies, but on Shakespeare and
American popular culture, he would defer to me. If there were topics that were
unfamiliar and intriguing, he would make a note and search online later to research.
"Oh, I learned something about about Roosevelts," and he would explain what he found on Wikipedia.
"Oh, I learned something about about Roosevelts," and he would explain what he found on Wikipedia.
This show has been a part of our lives for years. Back in early 90’s, my roommate and I had a 7:30 evening class; we
needed to leave by 7:15 to be on time. There were way too many
days when we waited to hear final Jeopardy question before leaving, thus being
late for class.
Jeopardy! has a way of making the audience feel smart, especially when one out performs the contestants, who are so impressive until they mess up. Personally, I have a happy dance I do when I get the Final Jeopardy answer correct and the contestants do not. When watching the show with my daughter, I always challenge her to answer specific categories related to her current schoolwork. She rolls her eyes at me, and may not have an idea. But the moment she does gets a question right, her self-esteem shoots up!
Jeopardy! has a way of making the audience feel smart, especially when one out performs the contestants, who are so impressive until they mess up. Personally, I have a happy dance I do when I get the Final Jeopardy answer correct and the contestants do not. When watching the show with my daughter, I always challenge her to answer specific categories related to her current schoolwork. She rolls her eyes at me, and may not have an idea. But the moment she does gets a question right, her self-esteem shoots up!
My
father watched Jeopardy! religiously, more so after he
retired. I suppose that when one retires, there’s a need for
schedule
and structure. So, the whole day can be spent on random activities and
phone
calls to friends, but come 7 pm, there’s an appointment to be kept. My father was always the happiest at home, as master of his own domain – and
remote control. By the way, Dad was a Ken Jennings fan and had followed his streak passionately, and scolded me for games I missed.
Since 2000, my
father was in and out of hospitals due to various cardiac
health situations. He would often be hospitalized for days or a week or
two. Of course, visiting hours hit in the evening, so we knew
someone would be watching the show with him. We'd turn on the hospital
TV and fuss with the angle and remote control volumes.
In June 2018, he was hospitalized for pneumonia, but it turned out to be kidney failure. We would be with him around the clock, as he moved on to dialysis. To help flush his kidneys, he was on low liquids. We held his hands as he feebly asked for water, which we could not give. Time moved slowly throughout the day as doctors and nurses came in and out, measuring and testing, and giving vague answers if any.
That 7 pm time slot was magical, a comfortable expectation of what we would experience. Alex is a reliable friend showing up, and reminding us the rest of the world was still normal. In his weakened state, he couldn’t follow along with the show. Was his hearing aid turned on? We tried to be cheerful and tried to ask him the questions in case he knew. The dialysis bed had a small TV on the side. So, it worked as a bit of distraction, as the machines droned rhythmically next to him, cleaning out his blood stream.
In June 2018, he was hospitalized for pneumonia, but it turned out to be kidney failure. We would be with him around the clock, as he moved on to dialysis. To help flush his kidneys, he was on low liquids. We held his hands as he feebly asked for water, which we could not give. Time moved slowly throughout the day as doctors and nurses came in and out, measuring and testing, and giving vague answers if any.
That 7 pm time slot was magical, a comfortable expectation of what we would experience. Alex is a reliable friend showing up, and reminding us the rest of the world was still normal. In his weakened state, he couldn’t follow along with the show. Was his hearing aid turned on? We tried to be cheerful and tried to ask him the questions in case he knew. The dialysis bed had a small TV on the side. So, it worked as a bit of distraction, as the machines droned rhythmically next to him, cleaning out his blood stream.
On August 20th,
he passed away from multiple organ failure. It’s been difficult for the
family
and every friend who knew my father and his jovial spirit. My mother is
living
alone, and she said she watches the show every night too. This was their
ritual she needs to uphold. One evening, she saw the lights flicker in
the
family room when Jeopardy! was on. She knew he was watching too.
2 comments:
Beautiful Ode to your father, Ashini !
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Loved this one. My family has been watching Jeopardy together since I was a young boy sitting on my grandfather's couch. It's amazing that something so simple, a television trivia show, can be such a powerful point of connection and way of remembering the ones we love.
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